Monthly Archives: November 2011

How long it take you to get your baby to sleep through the night..?


Me.. 5 very very long years..!!!

I can’t believe I am actually typing this, because I know that I will tempt fate and she will stop sleeping through once I hit the send button.!

The whole grail of motherhood is getting your baby to sleep all night, and you hear the stories from Mums saying that their baby slept through from 6 weeks.. god I hate them..!

So where did I go terribly wrong, god knows, having the girls only 14 months apart didn’t help me, (I have getting drunk at a BBQ to than for that one.!) Mia was a very sickly baby, lots of respiratory problems, and we found out at my amniocentesis that there was a chromosome problem, so maybe I was over-cautious with her.

But the main reason is that she is stubborn, (and actually she doesn’t need that much sleep) Mia would wake up each night and not want to go back to sleep, I would try to get her to sleep for 2 hours, all she would do is scream, and if I left her to cry she would vomit or throw herself out of the cot.

My 1st try with a sleep consultant got me into a routine and we had 3 whole glorious weeks of sleep, I remember going out for the night with friends and saying how wonderful life was now Mia was sleeping, only to find her up and in the babysitters arms when we got home.. I could have killed her..!

She was sick again, and I could not get her back into a routine.. we then moved to Vietnam, and that is where I tried with another sleep consultant, this one claimed not to do the controlled crying but had great techniques, so I paid my money and got mentoring over the phone.

I had to get Mia to sleep on her own, so I was not in the room when she fell asleep, after 3 weeks of 2 hours a night of trying to get her to stay in her room I gave up, she was just not giving in and would scream and cry until she passed out.

Then we went to the doctors (there has to be something medically wrong) he went through her medical history and recommended me sending her to Singapore for a sleep lab test, I showed her what this would entail from a YouTube clip and guess what she slept that night, that is when I realised there was nothing medically wrong with her.!

So what did I do? I  put a blow-up bed in my room and said if you want to come into my room you sleep on the blow up bed and not in my bed.

Finally I started to get some sleep, then we moved to the UK, and we had another period of upheaval, we stayed at my parents house for 8 weeks and I slept in the girls room, then the move into our house just 10 weeks ago.

But for some reason she is now sleeping all night and has done for about 2 weeks, I still have to sit with her as she goes to sleep, but I don’t mind as it is a nice quiet time of the night. She is even getting up in the morning and taking herself downstairs and getting her own drink, and the thing I love is that I hear the girls having a little chat when they wake up.

Sleep deprivation is the worst form of torture, I remember losing my mind, feeling depressed, not wanting to go out at night with friends because I knew I was going to be up for hours in the middle of the night.

Now don’t get me wrong here, I was very fortunate to be living in Asia where you have help, so I was able to take myself off and get some me time, and didn’t do any housework (OK its out there now!) and there would be  some nights where I would ask Elsa to put Mia to bed because I couldn’t face doing it.

If I was in the UK having to do everything myself, maybe working and dealing with Mia and the nights I think I would have need some form of medical help.

So why is she sleeping now, I really don’t know.. maybe she feels settled here in England, or that Philippe is around all the time (before he would be travelling for at least 2 weeks of the month) and we have the family close together, my Mum and Dad are down the road and my sister and her kids are only a walk away.

I still have the blow up bed beside mine, and I don’t know when I will stop putting it down each night, I think the night I don’t do it will be the night she wakes up..!

 


Mia Tui reviews


I thought I would collate all the reviews that have been done on the Mia Tui bags in one easy to find page.

I designed the bags to be used for so many different occasions, Work, Baby and Travel, you choose how you use your bag.

How I would use the bags are as follows

Amelie – this is the perfect travel bag for me, it is airline compliant and I know where all my essential things are. Once at my desitination it becomes my beach bag as it is water-proof and the clear bags are for my suncreams, ipod etc.

Use as a….

  • Hospital Bag
  • Work bag
  • Baby bag

Ava – I use this when I am out with the girls, I can fit everything I need for them, water, snacks etc but still have my stuff at hand in the co-orinating clutch.

Use as a…

  • Baby Bag
  • Work bag
  • Travel bag

Grace – this is my everyday bag, I can still take drinks with me and always find phone, pens and keys, I wear it across my body so my hands are free, but if I want to change I just take out the strap and its as traditional handbag

Use as a..

  • Everyday bag
  • Baby bag
  • Light travel bag

Reviews


The Baby Show, Fresh Starts and a Hospital Bag


My god it has been a while since I last blogged.. Life is a bit full on at the moment and I don’t think it will slow down until I slump in front of my roast turkey and eat until I can’t move.

So what has been happening..? I did The Baby Show for Trade which was our 1st serious show, I was in the final of The Rattle to Riches competition, I was very nervous, I didn’t win, they said it was very close! but at least I didn’t get any red flags saying they would never buy my bags.!

We had really good feed back from the buyers, and managed to place 1 order on the day, so the new bags will be winging their way down to two shops in Essex in a few weeks.

Then half term inconveniently arrived, so I juggled work and kids and then headed down to The Baby Show in Earls Court, I had now idea what to expect from this show, having my kids abroad I had never gone to any exhibitions like this before.. My god it is a pregnant women’s paradise, they can buy everything there.

Walking through the show on the 1st morning before everyone arrived got me thinking of when you have your 1st baby,  everything is new, you have your beautiful nursery all decorated in neutral colours, clothes all ironed and put away, creams, nappies, the new bath tub, room temperature monitor, baby monitor, you have it ALL. It is going to be perfect, you are going to be the perfect mother/father.

This sort of made me want to have another baby, just to put right ALL the things I have done wrong with bring up my kids, oh how there are SO many things I would change… The sleep routine for one, I have royally cocked that one up, every night I have to sit, fan, rub or massage Mia to sleep, Amelie won’t sleep unless there is someone in the room, and up until very recently they would always end up in our room. Money seems to keep them in their room now.. how the old bribery trick works.

The one thing we have drilled into them is to take their shoes off before coming into the house, this is because in Asia it is expected. They never forget, even if they are running at 100 miles an hour into the house they stop take shoes off and run again.. Just shows that consistency works, shame I didn’t do it on  eating their vegetables :- )

Are there many things you would change..?

We had a great show and so many people loved our bags, the thing that surprised me is that the men “got” the bags and really loved them. I talked and talked for 3 days about the bags and by Monday had started to lose my voice. It was great to meet so many of my Twitter friends who came to say hi.

So to the Hospital Bag – well it never occurred to me that the Amelie bag is the most Perfect hospital bag, you can fit everything you need to take into hospital and then it turns into a great travel, days out bag when you have the baby..

When you start to travel with your baby, off to see friends and family you need to take a lot, the Amelie bag is big enough to do it all, so you only have to take one bag out with you. Or and I like this one.. when you drop baby off at your Mums for the night, so you can have some together time, or just SLEEP! you can fit everything your mum will need for the baby and just hand over baby and bag and skip off..!

I am looking for some pregnant women to review the Amelie bag as a hospital bag .. so if you know anyone who fits the bill get in touch info@miatui.com

The new bags are on the website now.. use promo code MT2011 for 10% off and you will see that I have already discounted the older stock, so go and get some christmas shopping done.